It just so happened that Valentines' Day fell on a Tuesday - a day so chill for me that I get to have the leisure of logging in my blog account. And of course I got thoughts to share :)
I'm 18 and I'm still waiting for that day when I can readily accept the fact that I am a girl in want of a boy hahaha. Considering all the circumstances of the moment, I can only be good friends with people, nothing more than that. At least not yet. But when that day comes, I wanna be sure and ready, you know. So I thought this selection from an old book that once belonged to my tita, entitled Pretty As You Please, would be very timely to share.
Kilig is a fickle and passing thing. I don't wanna have to settle with that alone, which is why my standards are placed in a higher scale (yes beauty queen ka teh). Let's just assume this is somewhat a message addressed to my anonymous future (waaaaay in the future) boyfriend hahahaha
IS IT LOVE?
Young ladies are smart indeed if they learn early to distinguish between affection and love.
Affection between young people can be sweet and dear. They can know real love only when they are fully adult and completely grown up.
The sexual urge is not love. It is only a sign that one may soon be capable of love.
Excitement and physical reaction are not love. Animals feel this to some extent.
Love is not a transient and selfish thing. Love is a strong, lasting thing. Love is not the basis for a 'crush', but the foundation for a family: not a spice of life, but a start for a new life: not something greedy, but something generous and self-sacrificing.
Decent and wholesome love moves towards marriage and responsibilities.
Casual and dangerous love has no thought of marriage and is quite irresponsible.
Decent and wholesome love wants most of all the happiness of the other person.
Lust has a way of wanting only self-gratification at whatever cost to the other person.
-Daniel A. Lord
MAURUS, J. (compiler). Pretty As You Please. pp. 44-45Pasay City: Saint Paul Publications
Don't get me wrong, though. I'm not rushing into matrimony oh my gosh. I'm just saying that even if the idea of this selection is too old-school to grasp, I'll still choose to settle for the decent and wholesome love. Call me old-fashioned and jologs but I guess I just wanna do away with all the trifling miseries a fickle thing could give my heart. I may be the most unknowing girl when it comes to dealing with boys but at least I have something to believe in.
And I'm young. I still like to get kilig feelings but I know that at this point in time, they'll have to be just as is --- mere feelings. I think there is always a beauty in the art of holding back, especially for the most noble and unselfish reasons.
Happy Valentines! :)
xoxo,
Blesse
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